~ honor your failures as they serve a special purpose in your life by making way for something even greater ~

Defeat may serve as well as victory

To shake the soul and let the glory out

When the oak is straining in the wind,

The boughs drink in new beauty, and the trunk

Sends down a deeper root on the windward side.

Only the soul that knows the mighty grief

Can know the mighty rapture. Sorrows come

To stretch out spaces in the heart for joy.

~ by Edwin Markham

.are you thriving or surviving??

.let’s choose to thrive!!!

.if you join me, let’s consider what wave you’re on, and what wave you should be on…

.surfing the ocean?,  surfing the web?

.nope- surfing the universe!        …WHAT???

.ok, ok, hang on.  either way, have you noticed that sometimes you feel like you’re ‘going with the flow’?  have you felt that?  maybe as a kid at the park, you simply played or pretended to be pirates or princesses;  or in sports, you weren’t thinking, you were just ‘in the zone’;  or maybe you experienced a day that just seemed to roll smoothly along?

.and of course you have probably had those days where nothing went well (no, no, no, we’re NOT here to discuss those days, Lol.  although if you get these types of days they make for great, humorous, stories of survival! I digress… back to surfing….)

.you surf the universe by noticing those good moments, by feeling all those good emotions and by mentally choosing to enjoy the ride of your life.  again.  and again.  and again.  to infinity and beyond…

.you don’t believe?  …well, it is your choice after all.

.if you were to pretend it’s a movie about your life-  how would you want it to play out?  If you use your imagination and grab a wave and surf it out-  what great things could happen, what great vibes could you experience?  keep going… the more you practice, the better you’ll feel.

.and watch as a totally new life opens up right before your eyes!

“Be mindful of your self talk.  It’s a conversation with the universe”
~ David James Lees

… which is, of course, why you can never run away from yourself.  you can, however, change your thoughts…

Motivation is external and difficult for most.  Inspiration comes from within and its power is infinite and effortless.

.so often, i have been asked, ‘why is positive change sooo difficult for so many people?’…

.well it all has to do with the way that our brains work.  we can’t fight it.  so lets work with it instead.  if we work against it – it’s like saying there’s no gravity (here on earth, people) and expecting not to come down when you jump up.  it happens automatically – you jump up and then you come back down.  it’s a universal truth (true for everyone).  and universal truths are the only the truths there are (more on that later when we question every ‘truth’ you can throw at me).

.so why the talk of gravity and truths and brains, you ask???  well maybe you want to lose weight or earn more money or improve your relationships and you can’t seem to succeed or you do for a bit but it doesn’t last.   it is possible that maybe you could be putting your energy into fighting against these impersonal truths?  truths that simply can’t be changed?   this could be a problem. you just may have given over your power to forces outside of yourself.

.you can take it back, however!   and when you make that choice,  your life will change in amazing and as of yet unimaginable ways.   when you understand how the only real truths operate in the universe – you can learn what to do.   Ready?!  OK,  so let’s start with the mind.

.a little background on that beautiful mind of yours.  the conscious mind (i.e. the master) is your reasoning mind, making the choices and decisions and rationalizations in the now…  all the while, the subconscious mind (i.e. the slave) only follows ‘orders’ from the conscious mind…   but there is a huge caveat (a truth you must know)…  if these new ‘orders’ don’t match up with the grooves and pathways that have already been established in the subconscious mind over your lifetime (programming ingrained from parents, teachers, siblings, experience, anything longheld beliefs, etc), then this ‘order’ is automatically rejected – it is simply NOT understood!

.boom! it’s over – failure.  time and time again.  you’ve seen it, heard it and you know the drill:

-she’s skinny, but not me     -he’s rich but works 90 hours a week      -i lost 10lbs…then gained 15.  -i’m sick    -i have allergies   -i feel like crap.  -why is SHE always so dang happy?    -my life is hard -she’s smarter   -i’ll never have…    -if i only had…     -i need more money       and so on…

.the truth is – we all live in the same world (or do we?) and yet some people are the golden boys/girls and some of us just suck.  is this true?  why?  are we really doomed???  is any of this really, really, true?!!

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.NO!   and knowing that, you can lighten-up starting right now 🙂

.you can realize that your life is full of so many illusions and false truths.   forget why and how and let’s focus on removing all the rubbish.

.so what are we to do in order to create lasting, beneficial,  changes in our lives???

.now you can get excited – yes, there ARE answers, and I have them for you (after many years of research, study and practice)!

…1. together, we help you begin to notice (bring awareness to) and then challenge (with inquiries such as, ‘is this really true?’) those nagging, negative, thoughts that automatically crop up for you.

.do you really know what you value most in life?  or are you so busy trying to make it to the weekend in one piece that have no clue?!?  are those weeks turning into months and years in what seems like a blink of an eye???

.then, let’s take a moment, a deep breath, and get back to you…

… while you’re breathing, why not take this moment for yourself and allow yourself to ponder over 5-10 words that resonate with you, that feel like the real you, deep inside.  these are the words and ideas that represent your inner truth (therefore, no negatives.  more on that later).  there are no wrong answers, only your answers.  Here are some possibilities in various tenses and forms:

.abundance, accountability, accomplishment, action, authenticity, awareness, beauty, benevolence, community, character, compassion, creativity, courage, curiosity, diversity, drama!, duty, easy-going, efficiency, emotional intelligence, enthusiasm, excellence, exploration, fairness, family, fitness, focus, freedom, fun, friendship, generosity, growth, healing, health, home, honesty, honor, humor, influence, integrity, intelligence, intimacy, integration, inspiration, joy, kindness, knowledge, leadership, love, meaning, motivation, movement, nature, opportunity, organic, passion, purpose, peace, persistence, patience, philanthropy, power, reflection, rationality, recognition, responsibility, sacrifice, security, stability, service, simplicity, sincerity, spontaneity, sharing, strength, success, team, thoughtfulness, timeliness, travel, truth, wealth… fire, air, water, wind…  ??? what else?

.keep these close to your heart.  remind yourself each day to take a moment, breathe, and allow your mind wonder over these words.  your words.    …the more you do, i assure you, the more they will show up in your experience of your amazing life.

.let me know what you came up with!!!  i would love to hear from you 🙂 🙂

Low on Energy?  Nosh on these questions for a bit….

Who would you be if you knew, absolutely knew, you had access to all of the Energy and immense, infinite, Joy the universe has to offer?!

Who would/could you be without your:

Fear, worry, doubt, guilt, shame, sense of lack, false pride, arrogance, etc?